Tuesday, March 20, 2007

He likes me, he likes me not.....

So up again, I am, just got done watching Letterman, he had Bernie Mac on the show as a guest and Bernie said something that sort of blew me away because I thought I was the only one who felt that way.

Dave asked him how long he has been married to his wife and Bernie replied, "thirty years", so Dave wanted to know howdhedothat and Bernie said the secret is liking the person, not loving them, he said love was overrated.

It reminded me about an argument I had with my ex years ago, one of a few, where he was trying to convince me that he loved me and I told him that he did not need to convince me that he loved me, I believed that he did love me BUT I knew that he did not LIKE me! He said he thought that the fact he loved me should mean he liked me, OH NO, I said, LOVE and LIKE are absolutely two different issues.

Prime example, take your siblings, perchance, it goes without saying that you love them but and I am sure a lot of you out there can attest to this, a lot of times you cannot stand your brother or sister because some of the things they do just irk the crap out of you. But it's okay because you know you just have to deal with them for the time being, until, if you’re lucky, you get to move far far away.

When you genuinely like a person, you want to talk to that person a lot, listen to their opinions, call them for advice etc. When you like a person you respect them.

You dig them!

When I meet a person, I can instantly tell when said person is attracted to mewhich is really every time heehee. I immediately begin to look for clues that he likes me and is genuinely interested in me, not just waiting for the opportunity to jump my bones! Clear indications of the latter would be, having to repeat conversations because he cannot remember things you talked about just last night or talking on the phone then experiencing a dropped call but he does not call right back. There's more...A lot of times if I don't like a person the day I meet him, it is highly unlikely that a relationship will develop.

Anyway, I believe that love will grow but liking a person should be an instantaneous event! You do not have to like a person to love them, after all, we have already been charged to love everyone as ourselves but liking a person makes it a whole lot easier to love a person and to stay loving that person.

C'est tout!

6 comments:

Fred said...

Have you ever heard of the Four Loves by C. S. Lewis?

Lolita said...

I have now. Is it worth buying or should I make a quick run to my local library?

LittleGirlLost said...

Now that you put it like that...I get it.

Idemili said...

I understand what you're talking about. Completely.

Fred said...

Excellent, as is anything by Lewis. Buy it. Now. Then report back! ;-)

Lolita said...

Cheers, littlegirllost and Idemili, thanks for the visit.

Freddie, As it has been written, so it will be done :)